I have noticed lately that I dive back into those “remember when” moments when things are tough and I want to think back to the good old days. As I move forward in my career meandering journey...as I think back to the days that the kids were still kids...everything seemed easier “back when”.
It’s easy to remember the good old days without remembering the difficulties that came with them. That’s not fair to the present and it’s not even real. It’s just my perception of what was.
The other day I was with my younger son watching sports on TV and the Tennessee Titan football team came on briefly. “Oh,” I said, “I remember when you were a little boy and you had a sports crush on the Titans. They were the first team you really loved.”
My mind began a lovely tale of moments picturing my young son in his Titan jersey and Titan banners hung proudly on the walls of his room. It was such a warm feeling to enjoy the memories. I knew for a fact that it was the Titans and no one would be able to question those memories because they were real and factual. I can see everything perfectly to this day and in great detail.
Then, poof, my younger son said to me, “Mom, that wasn’t me. That was my older brother (name being withheld as both sons will kill me if they know I am writing about them).
“Wait, that wasn’t you?” I asked. “No, don’t be ridiculous,” he said.
That’s what life is like. You swear that your memories are EXACTLY they way you remember them. How could they be any different? You remember every detail. But, you don’t.
We remember what we want to remember or sometimes we just forget.
I am keeping that thought close to my heart now when I think of the good old days and I want everything to go back to the way it was. It’s difficult to try new things...some work, some don’t, but they are part of who you are now and where you are going at this moment.
It’s not to say memories are not wonderful and helpful. I just want to remember to take them with a grain of salt, especially when I am using those old memories to help me learn lessons and move forward.